Why Doggy Style Is the Most Popular Sex Position

In this intricate world of intimate exploration, ‘doggy style’ has emerged as an all-time favorite among the LGBTQ and crossdressers who have just begun navigating their desires.

Besides its simplicity, the sex position possesses a unique allure that carries with it a promise of physical pleasure and emotional connection.

In this article, we discuss more about spicing up this sex position and things to do in preparation for anal sex in general.

We also talk about alternative sex positions to explore with your partner.

So, let’s get right into it!

Tips to Make Doggy Style More Enjoyable for Beginners

Engaging in any sexual activity, including doggy style, should be respectful, consensual, and focused on the pleasure of each party involved.

Nothing beats the view of a well-arched back and that of an erect majestic penis.

And there are even more ways to make the experience pleasurable.

So, whether you are a top or bottom, here are some tips to spice up things in the bedroom:

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  Maintain Proper Hygiene

This goes without saying, but it is crucial, so mentioning it is essential.

The anal region is the most susceptible to bacteria; therefore, keeping it as clean as possible is necessary.

One way to do so is by having regular showers, and if your man is not keen on cleanliness, you can work this into the foreplay.

Making out in the shower as you playfully soap each other is a great place to start.

Also, remember to wrap up whenever you’re having intercourse with a non-monogamous person.

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  Throw on Some Sexy Clothing

If you are a crossdresser looking for products that can accentuate your best features, there are various options to choose from.

Here are some outfits worth considering:

Bodysuits 

Are you looking to get into the right kind of trouble?

Then, bodysuits are the way to go.

They instantly add a thrilling element to your sexual experiences by accentuating your body and giving you a classy and seductive look.

Available in various materials and may have raunchy parts in all the right areas to provide your partner with easy access.

Breast Forms

Consider getting breast forms if you are going for a feminine or curvaceous look.

Besides enhancing your aesthetic appeal, they may create sensory stimulation for the partner holding them and play a vital role in role-playing.

Feminine Accessories

Feminine accessories like makeup, jewelry, fishnet stockings, and makeup can help unleash your inner diva and are a fun way to improve intimacy and explore various role-playing scenarios.

In addition, they make you feel more attractive and boost your confidence.

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  Foreplay is a Must

Foreplay should come first before any other action. When it comes to foreplay, nothing is off the table.

The more prepared you are to experiment, the higher the likelihood of satisfaction.

However, it is best just to be yourself and do whatever comes naturally to you instead of copying what you’ve seen on porn sites.

While at it, note your partner’s responses to gauge their enjoyment.

These responses could be verbal, or you might need to look for clues in your partner’s face or muscles.

If there is no reaction, that might be your cue to try a different pleasure zone or technique.

Another foreplay tip worth noting is keeping things fair.

Try as much as possible to ensure the pleasure is shared equally.

Sometimes, however, it doesn’t hurt to go the extra mile for your man, especially if he has had a stressful week at work.

For instance, you could start him off with a steamy massage and a mind-blowing blowjob afterward.

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  Use Lots of Lube

Someone roughly ramming into you could cause you unimaginable pain.

As you may already know, the anal area has no glands that could wet the surface.

A dry surface could cause discomfort and increase the risk of tears and STI transmission.

For this reason, consider applying lots of lube around the external sphincter before sliding the penis or sex toy in.

A good lube recommendation for gay anal sex would be silicon-based.

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  Keep Your Hands Busy

At no point should your hands lay idle beside you.

As you thrust, you could hold your partner’s waist firmly, hold his hands from the back, or caress their neck and cheek, whispering sweet nothings into their ears or jerking them off.

For the bottoms, you could play with your guy’s scrotum or hold onto the bedpost and let our moans escape you as you submerge yourself in blissful pleasure.

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  Try Different Angles

Doggy style gives you more access to your partner, allowing for deeper penetration, which is fantastic for men with smaller-sized penises.

However, if you are on the larger side and your partner is too overwhelmed by the standard doggy style, you may introduce a few tweaks in your positioning.

Your partner can change the angle by leaning backward or forward and pressing his legs together.

Doing so creates a sort of cushion in between.

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  Vary Your thrusts

Once you’re in your man’s butt, now is the time to remember that variety is key to a fulfilling sexual experience.

Good sex doesn’t involve the same boring thrust, in and out, but rather variety.

Pounding refers t when you’re slamming your penis in his butt with speed and intensity, which is ideal for a bottom ready for it.

So, if your partner is not yet relaxed, this may not be a viable option.

Jackhammering is when you pull out your dick entirely from the ass before slamming it right back in.

This type of thrusting should only happen after the sex has gone on for a while and your partner has loosened up.

The best sex is when you alternate between gentle and quick, hard strokes.

The rhythm and pace of these thrusts will depend on how your bodies sync.

How to Prepare for Anal Sex

While sex may be an activity enjoyed by almost everyone, the way each person prepares for it isn’t necessarily the same.

When it comes to gay anal sex in particular, the type of preparation can be even more specific and varies depending on the role of the participants.

Whether you are top, bottom, or versatile, here are some tips to help you prepare for anal sex:

Decide on the Kind of Anal Play You Are Into

Spoiler alert: You’ve got options.

Yes, anal sex is all about penetration-something going into your anus-but anal is also a broad umbrella, and knowing what you’re interested in prior can help you prepare appropriately.

Some of the types of anal sex you should be aware of include:

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  Penis in Anus

Commonly known as P-in-A sex, this type of anal sex is self-explanatory. It involves inserting the penis into the anus.

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  Toy in Anus

There is a plethora of anal dildos that can serve as penis substitutes.

You can also explore plugs which are smaller-sized and tailored to be left in place as well as anal beads from which you derive pleasure during both insertion and removal.

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  Digital Penetration

This involves using your fingers to explore anal play.

For this reason, your nails and hand hygiene should always be on point.

Keep your nails short, clean, and well-filed.

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  Oral

This type of anal sex is also known as rimming or anilingus and involves oral stimulation of the anus.

It could involve kissing, licking, sucking, or any other pleasurable act involving oral-to-anal contact.

Get Some Lube

Listen, no matter what you think, lube is essential during anal sex.

As you may have already read, the glands in the anus do not produce natural lubrication, so anal penetration without sufficient lubrication could cause tears in the anus.

Besides being painful, it also makes you vulnerable to sexually transmitted infections.

Experts recommend water- and silicone-based lubes, but you might want to steer clear of the latter if you’re using silicone anal toys as it could erode them.

Check to See That Your Toys Are Safe for Anal

It’d help to know that not all toys are safe for anal play.

So, when buying them, the most critical factor to look for is a fared base, so the toy won’t get stuck inside you.

In addition, go for toys made of easy-to-clean materials like silicone, which is also hypoallergenic and non-porous.

Beginners should consider toys that come in incremental sizes so they can start small and progress gradually.

Do Not Forget to Grab Some Condoms

Unless you and your man are sexually monogamous, condoms should always be in the equation to lessen the risk of STIs.

Besides, a condom makes you feel more comfortable if messing is a concern.

Douche

While getting your butt ready for anal play can be as simple as washing the area with clean water till it is clean, some people prefer doing an enema or douche, which is equally acceptable.

Douching involves injecting water into the rectum to dissolve the stool that may be present.

This action makes it easier to pass poop, and some people recommend doing this before anal sex to avoid any fecal matter making unwanted appearances in the bedroom.

Again, remember, an enema isn’t necessary, as your chances of pooping during the act are close to none.

Try Solo Exploring First

Anal sex isn’t something you just jump into.

So, whether you are an anal pro or beginner, consider doing some solo exploring first before doing it with a partner.

This could mean working anal into your masturbation sessions, whether by using toys or fingers to stimulate yourself.

Other Sex Positions You Can Try as a Beginner

Good old doggy style is indeed the most popular sex position for beginners, but this doesn’t mean that you and your partner can’t explore other styles out there.

Trying out new sex positions is a great way to make things in the bedroom more interesting, and studies reveal that couples who do this tend to have more passionate and satisfying sex lives.

Are you and your partners looking to switch things a notch higher?

Here are some positions to help spruce up your sex life

Missionary Style

With a few tweaks here and there, missionary style can also be fun for gay couples.

The position offers gentleness, ease, and intimacy when done using sufficient amounts of lube.

So how is it done?

The bottom partner tilts upwards than usual to provide easy penetration.

Missionary position brings you face-to-face with your partner, allowing greater intimacy.

Spooning

This gay sex pose offers skin-to-skin contact and easy access for both participants.

In addition, the big spoon can access the little spoon’s penis, nipples, and chest, ensuring greater stimulation and, consequently, a heightened sexual experience.

The little spoon can also play with the big spoon’s penis between sex.

Lotus

Lotus is yet another sex position you are likely to enjoy.

You get into a yoga-like butterfly position, and your partner sits in your lap, facing you and wrapping their legs around your back.

Ensure they are seated close enough to you so you can easily reach their anus for penetration.

Once in position, have the person on top set a rhythm for thrusting as they have more flexibility with their hips.

Conclusion

As a gay man who has just recently started exploring sex, it is normal to be confused about where to begin regarding sex positions and hygiene.

Fortunately for you, this guide has got you covered.

For beginners, it is advisable to start small and progress gradually.

While at it, you’ll discover what you are into and what turns you off.

However, it is important to remember that consensus and mutual pleasure are paramount, so do not feel pressured to do anything you aren’t comfortable doing.