What To Do If You Find Other Cross-dressers While Going Out

As cross-dressing becomes more popular among today’s youth, our numbers keep growing daily. As such, it becomes more common for us to stumble upon cross-dressers and outed trans people when we go out. The problem is that most of our sisters don’t know how to react and might end up not talking to them. And that’s a shame since our community can benefit from interactions like these.

Aim at making them feel comfortable and at ease so you can introduce yourself and make new friends. Always be respectful and helpful, and try to encourage them. This way, you can make our sisters feel like they’re not alone, improving their confidence. If you want further tips, keep on reading! This article will be pretty helpful.

1. Make them feel comfortable

The first rule is to avoid making things weird. Don’t stare at them for too long to determine if they are cross-dressers. We all have insecurities, and being stared at doesn’t help. They will most likely think that they were clocked or that someone is making fun of them because they don’t pass. If you want to talk to them, approach them casually if you think they’re open to socializing. Remember that some of our sisters are introverted and shy. So starting a conversation without making them uncomfortable might be challenging. Still, avoid forcing an encounter, as they might mistake you for a bully or even a chaser. I feel sad saying that, but it’s essential to disclose it since many of.us don’t feel safe outside. Always be polite and never catcall them, or you might discourage other cross-dressers from going out. If they seem to avoid conversation, the best thing to do is leave them alone.

2. Introduce yourself and let them do the same

But if you find an opportunity to talk to them, start by introducing yourself. If you’re confident that they are also a member of the LGBTQ community, state your pronouns, so they feel comfortable doing the same. Allow some time for them to do the same, and ask for their name and pronouns, so you avoid misgendering them. This is a critical part of your first conversation since that’s how you make it clear that they can be themselves around you. A good introduction will help you with all the other topics mentioned here and is the first step towards making a new cross-dressing friend. Identifying other people within our community is not very difficult, but how you let them know about you matters. As the saying goes, the first impression is the one that sticks!

3. Let them know they’re safe around you

Going out en femme can be dangerous, depending on where you live. Some countries have poor legislation regarding the defense of trans people’s safety. They are even less effective for cross-dressing individuals. Because of that, some people feel free to mistreat and discriminate against them. In the worst-case scenario, they might turn to violence and harm us since no one is there to stop them. Because of said circumstances, the best thing to do if you find some of our sisters out there is to make them feel safe, especially if they are alone. Offer to accompany them if they want, and ensure you let them know they are not alone. Another good idea is to give them your number, so they have someone to call if something goes wrong. Keep in mind that many of our sisters are still closeted to their families, so having a way to reach for someone that understands them is a relief. They fell less confined than they would otherwise and, thus, safer. Remember that being united makes us strong in this hostile society, so staying in contact with our sisters who feel alone is essential.

4. Encourage them to keep doing it

This kind of encounter is fantastic. So much exciting stuff happens when we find people that go through the same stuff as us! But why not use it as an oppening to cheer each other up? Sometimes, we can use some good advice and extra encouragement. You never know how people genuinely feel on the inside, and kind words can make all the difference for them. Because of that, always give other cross-dressers sincere compliments. Make sure you talk about how beautiful and feminine they are. If you have some kind of criticism, try to say that constructively, encouraging them to keep trying. And if it’s not something they can change, it’s better not to say anything. Once again, I want to remind you to ask about their pronouns, so you can avoid making them uncomfortable. Some people like to be referred to by feminine pronouns while en femme, while others still go by their masculine names. You’ll be respecting them by using the right ones, encouraging them to keep doing it. It’s about feeling welcome in the community, as we always return to a place we feel welcome and respected.

5. Share tips and let them contact you

It’s also important to share your knowledge with them! Trading this information helps our sisters progress in their cross-dressing journeys. This way, they evolve their skills and learn new stuff. Talk about your makeup techniques, and give them extra tips about each aspect of cross-dressing! Introduce them to clothing brands, makeup supplies, shapewear, and even silicone prosthetics. And make sure you tell them where to buy specialized stuff and how to receive it if they are still closeted.

Another thing worth mentioning is that you should show them cross-dressing forums and blogs so they can stay tuned to the latest trends and news. Besides that, you should also let them contact you for further tips, so either give them your phone number or let them follow you on social media. The latter is a more discreet way of staying in contact, as your conversations will remain private and protected.

As you can see, encountering other cross-dressers and trans people when going out is no longer rare. It occurs more frequently daily, and we should be prepared for this situation. The goal is to keep the interaction friendly and productive between you. This way, you help our community to grow and encourage our sisters to be themselves. Have you ever seen another cross-dresser in the open while going out? If you did, let us know how it felt in the comments!