Tips for Crossdressers That Might Want to Be Trans

Gender is complicated. And we, crossdressers, live on the edge of the gender spectrum.

Many of us are still discovering who we are. And what starts with cross-dressing can end up finding out we are trans.

So, what do we do if we aren’t prepared to face the facts? Not being able to deal with it may lead to depression.

Once you find out about your gender, you must accept who you are.

Do what you must to become your true self, but preserve your physical and mental integrity.

In this article, I’ll give you tips on how to deal with that. So, if you find yourself to be trans, give it a good read.

1. Accept your Identity

If you identify as a gender different from what you were assigned at birth, you’re transgender.

And that is okay. It would be best if you didn’t deny your own Identity; you must accept it sooner or later.

But it doesn’t mean that there won’t be any challenges. It is pretty difficult for us to accept it right away, and it depends on many factors.

For example, we all grow up believing that we must live up to expectations related to gender roles.

If you are assigned male at birth, people will expect you to grow up as a boy.

And they will try to make you comply, even if it’s indirect.

They will expect you to play football, like girls, and be the “man of the house.”

And denying years of expectations can be difficult. It is even harder to live in a conservative household with people who deny trans rights.

But no matter how much people tell you that you’re not valid, you must not deny your nature to yourself.

You are valid and worthy, and other people’s opinions don’t matter.

You’re the only one who knows how you feel and shouldn’t let others dictate your Identity.

2. Come out gradually

Coming out is a massive step in the lives of trans people. It means you’ll be letting others know who you are.

You’ll no longer have to pretend to be something you are not. But even so, I advise you to be careful and come out gradually.

We can’t predict other people’s reactions to the news, so it’s good to be cautious.

Some may treat us as if nothing has changed, while others may have a different attitude.

Because of that, it’s normal to be afraid of coming out right away when we live with uncertainty.

But if you come out with patience, things might be more manageable.

Try, for example, to come out to a few select people who you know will support you.

With time, you can come out to more people who will accept you while you figure out whether or not some others will do so as well.

A good way to start is to find some support groups online and come out to people there.

It helps you get used to the idea and validates your Identity.

After that, practice by coming out to a few friends and seeing how they react, but make sure you can trust them.

And before you come out to everyone else, make sure you talk to your parents as well.

However, if they’re transphobic, wait until you are more stable and independent.

This way, all they can do is accept you for who you are.

3. Find a Therapist

Therapy is essential in the lives of trans people, especially for those who just found out about their gender identity.

It is, for short, a way to help you deal with past trauma from being misgendered and forced to live as something different from who you are on the inside.

It is also important for those who want to get more familiar with their gender identity.

Discovering yourself to be trans brings a lot of confusion; it’s too much information sometimes.

And a therapist is there to help you deal with all of that.

It makes it easier for you to cope with the harsh reality of discrimination and bigotry and understand that none of that is your fault.

This is also a way of gaining validation and preventing serious issues, such as severe dysphoria or even depression.

4. Dress up more often

It would be best if you kept in touch with your Identity. In the beginning, you might have seen cross-dressing as nothing more than a hobby.

However, it was no longer enough after you understood that you were transgender.

It is, after all, who you are on the inside that defines the exterior, not the opposite.

It would be best if you spent more time dressing up and presenting as your true gender with that in mind.

If you’re a trans woman, put on makeup for the whole day and use wigs until your hair pleases you.

If you’re a trans man, get a new haircut and practice with binders.

If you feel like you can’t do that yet, practice at home and slowly change your outfits when going out to work or study.

It’s all a matter of adapting yourself to your new outfits and lifestyle, which brings us to our next topic.

5. Expand your wardrobe

Being trans often means that you’ll have to change your wardrobe fully.

It’s time to get rid of all the stuff from your closet that reminds you of your “Dead self.”

If you’re non-binary, it’s okay to keep them if you like them, but binary trans people may prefer to do the opposite.

But it also means that you’ll have to buy new clothes to replace the old stuff.

If you came out recently, start gradually, as not everyone can afford a new wardrobe all of a sudden.

Keep using the more neutral stuff you have for everyday affairs while gathering new outfits for different purposes.

My advice is for you to start with underwear and comfortable clothes to wear at home since they are more affordable.

Then, start to buy fancy clothes to go out on dates, to work, or school, depending on your needs.

Another good tip is to look at thrift stores since their products are cheaper, and the profits may go to charity sometimes.

Also, keep in mind that male and female outfits come in different sizes, females generally being smaller.

So, if you’re a trans woman, try plus-size stores, like the stuff they sell is more likely to fit your frame.

6. Start transitioning

To transition from one gender to another is to make more durable changes to your presentation.

It includes visual and sexual characteristics, and the goal is to make them match your inner gender identity.

The initial process is hormone replacement therapy. It means trans people take hormones to change their characteristics.

It includes skin texture, fat distribution, body hair, and even voice.

In the case of trans women, hormones may help them develop natural breasts with time.

But there’s much more to transitioning than just HRT. It includes many other medical and bureaucratic procedures to help you as well.

Take, for example, what we know as facial feminization surgery.

It involves reshaping your nose and jawline to make it more feminine, and sometimes some changes in your cheeks, lips, nose, and forehead as well.

Besides that, there’s also sex reassignment surgery that changes your genitals to match your gender identity.

It is more common and easy to make in trans women, known as vaginoplasty.

Things are more complicated for trans men, but they can get some realistic prosthetics.

Another thing worth explaining is the bureaucratic part I’ve mentioned.

As a trans person, you’ll probably want to change your name and more than a few documents to match it.

And we can count it as part of the transitioning process. It depends a lot on which country you are in, but most Western countries will allow it.

It takes a lot of time and effort, as many bureaucratic processes are out there.

To make things faster, look up online what kind of documents you need to update your name and gender by official means.

If you’re less than 18 years old, you may need permission from your parents or legal guardian.

You may also have to take some new pictures, so be prepared!

It’s not rare for trans people to start as crossdressers. Many of us discovered our gender identities this way.

What happens is that sometimes we aren’t prepared for the truth since no one expects to be trans.

Once you come out, however, and get a proper therapy treatment, you’ll be able to accept and validate who you are.

It is what makes you unique. You should embrace your Identity and try to be your true self, even if it requires you to transition altogether.

Just don’t deny or forget who you are. What do you think about it? Did you find out about your gender through cross-dressing?

Let us know about your journey in the comments!

Quiz:

What are you most excited to try after embracing your trans Identity?

A. Getting more feminine clothes


B. Transitioning


C. Coming out to everyone else

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