Is There a Point of No Return for Cross-Dressers?

Before we even understand what it means to be a cross-dresser, we have to face some doubts and insecurities. Many of us are on the verge of starting this marvelous journey. Yet, they catch themselves wondering if it is possible to quit at some point. They want to experiment but don’t want to risk everything and become addicted.

Because of that, I want to make a list of things that can help our sisters to get rid of these insecurities. Coming out, buying clothes, and even some introspection may do the trick. You just experiment and see what attracts you to cross-dressing. So, if you want to dress up without looking back, this is the right article for you.

1. What does it mean to your future?

A “point of no return” is a specific moment in our cross-dressing journey. It is when we lose the main insecurities about regrets and accept who we are. It allows us to dive in with all we have into a whole new world. If a cross-dresser happens to not reach this point, they might live in fear of making the wrong choice. That is, they are unsure if cross-dressing is something they should do. This feeling is normal, as these subjects are still taboo in many countries, so they might not have enough information.

In a long-term scenario, cross-dressers who doubt themselves are less happy. And in most cases, the persistence of the doubt means that they should be cross-dressing. So, if they know what they want to do, why are they so conflicted? Due to society’s expectations, the answer is a lack of experimentation. Maybe even some internalized transphobia. A quick side note goes here about using the term “internalized transphobia.” By that, I mean some prejudices and misconceptions that they’ve learned along the way. And we must get rid of them through experimentation and understanding. In the rest of the article, I’ll talk about some events that may help you.

2. Buying your first clothes

The initial desire and curiosity generally lead us to try out someone else’s clothes. I remember wearing my aunt’s dress and Bra when I was little, and similar stuff has happened to many of us. But doing so makes it look like we are doing something wrong. We are wearing other people’s stuff, after all. And the forbidden part of it makes us afraid of getting caught, giving us an impression of constant danger. It also limits our experience since we need that person to leave so we can dress up.

However, if you buy something for yourself, you’ll become more secure and confident. It means that you have accepted yourself as a cross-dressing and acknowledged that you need feminine clothes of your own. That’s the first step to take towards overcoming denial, encouraging them to start their journeys without looking back.

3. Going somewhere else en femme

Presenting yourself as a girl in public is a doubt-killer. The experience itself may be overwhelming, and I recommend doing so with support from your friends. But once you understand what it feels like to be seen as female, you’ll know if you want to do it again or not. As a result, people who are conflicted about being cross-dressers may use it as a point of no return to get a more immediate answer. If they feel good about it, they know that cross-dressing will be a part of their lives forever. And those who don’t are less likely to dress as a woman ever again.

It is a fact that people who pass more convincingly have better chances of enjoying the experience. But passability however, is not the point here. Going out en femme will help you fight your inner doubt, and you don’t even have to come out. It is possible, for example, to dress as a woman for Halloween or a costume party and see how things turn out.

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4. Accepting what it means to you

The conflict may sometimes be associated with our motivations, but each one of our sisters is unique. For some, cross-dressing is a hobby, kink, or even a form of art, while others have it as their way of life. But some may want to try it out of curiosity, just to get a feel of what it’s like. And these people are the ones who feel conflicted.

All of these motivations are more than valid, and deep down, it’s easy to figure out which one is for you. The hard part is admitting it. No matter if it’s due to your gender identity, your sexual desires, or an artistic impulse. You must understand that it is fine to be yourself and accept that it’s part of who you are. If you succeed in doing that, there’s nothing to regret about your cross-dressing adventures.

5. Coming out

Other people’s expectations also play a role in making you hesitate before cross-dressing. If you don’t want other people to find out, you’ll have a lot of effort to keep it a secret, which is discouraging. The idea of it is enough to make our sisters consider abandoning their habits and renouncing their cross-dressing desires. So make sure you let some people know.

Talk to your more open-minded friends and explain to them why you cross-dress. With time, start coming out to people you trust. Their support may help you not give up, as you won’t have to hide your nature from them anymore. All of this information makes me consider coming out as a major point of no return. That, and the fact that most cross-dressers I know haven’t stopped being themselves after coming out to a group of friends.

Do not feel ashamed if you have similar doubts. We aren’t born prepared to face this kind of stuff. But if you want to know whether or not cross-dressing is something for you to keep doing, you must do some experimentation. The examples in this article are the most effective ones I’ve ever heard of. Besides, of course, good old-fashioned therapy. Try not to give up until you try each method I’ve mentioned here. But if you already have your own point of no return, leave a comment and tell us!

Quiz:

Which point of no return fits better in your reality?

A. New purchases


B. Introspection


C. Going out en femme

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