How to Use a Strap On Vagina for a Beginner Crossdresser

You’re here, clicking on and scanning this article, and it’s not by coincidence. It’s because you’ve heard about strap on vaginas, right? If you’re like me, who used Uncle Google to ask what on Earth is a strap on vagina and got nothing helpful, then you’re in luck! In this article, I will share my findings on this severely underrated product.

As a beginner crossdresser, many products will help you in your presentation that you may find intimidating. There’s also a lack of proper information on many products for crossdressers and transgenders. So, as an experienced male-to-female (MtF) crossdresser, let me make your crossdressing journey more bearable! Read on!

What’s a Strap On Vagina?

A strap on vagina is something you wear to emulate having female genitalia. It comes in various designs and is used for various reasons. These reasons range from physical to psychological stimulation. It’s not only for crossdressers like me, either. It will also serve our transgender friends, drag queens, and creative cosplayers.

Benefits of a Strap On Vagina

As a user of strap on vaginas, here are some benefits of it I can attest to:

Physically

It makes me look like I have a vagina. I can tuck my penis, wear my strap on vagina, and it will look like I’ve been born with it. When I’m out crossdressing in public, I can confidently wear tight pants like leather or leggings. Sometimes, my girlfriend and I play around while I wear my strap on vagina as well — and it makes our sex life more exciting! One time, she asked me to wear a mini skirt with just my strap on vagina under, and it’s one of the most satisfying plays we’ve had. We still talk about it to this day.

For our drag queens and cosplayers, taking advantage of a strap on vagina can make their performances (and photoshoots) more convincing and entertaining.

Advantage: For a more womanlike presentation and intimate play

Mentally

A transgender colleague of mine shared her experience with a strap on vagina. Let’s call her Marilyn because she likes Marilyn Monroe so much, and who can blame her? She’s almost done with her transition, has D-cup size breast implants, and has already undergone an orchiectomy. But Marilyn was still on the fence about going through a vaginoplasty. She researched everything about it. She was aware of the pros and cons and now wanted to try what it would feel like. She read somewhere online that a strap on vagina might help, so she purchased one.

Take note that a strap on vagina is not a Fleshlight. It’s also not like the gag toy inflatable vagina you can get on Amazon. The one Marilyn bought was a fake vagina that you can wear like shorts. She told me it made her feel complete. “Cliche, I know,” I remember her saying. “But it made me realize I want to be a complete woman.” Now, she’s just waiting for her vaginoplasty schedule.

Additionally, for those who are battling  body dysmorphia, therapy can help. But ultimately, having a first-hand experience of what one can only imagine is the best avenue to reach a decisive conclusion. For an MtF transgender individual trying to pinpoint what they really want, realistic products like breast forms and strap on vaginas can guide them to the right decision.

Advantage: For decisive decision-making

Psychologically

You might be asking why I separated the “Mental” and “Psychological” advantages of having a strap on vagina. Here’s a fun tidbit I learned while in counseling: Mental health is about understanding and managing one’s emotions and feelings. Psychological well-being, on the other hand, is more comprehensive. It’s the “why:” Why do you feel that way? Why do you think that way? Why do you react like that?

In the previous section, Marilyn needed to understand her feelings about vaginoplasty. Her saying it made her “feel like a complete woman” is the psychological aspect. Marilyn is one of my closest workmates, and we do a lot of overtime, giving us ample time to talk about many things.

She told me that wearing a strap on vagina made her behave more feminine. She crosses her legs often now and is more elegant in her strides. It’s true that these behaviors can be from her years of emulating feminine gait and actions. But she said it comes more naturally when she’s wearing her strap on vagina. “I know I still don’t have the real thing. But it still feels like I already do.” I’d like to note that Marilyn looks happier these days. And I only wish her the very best in her upcoming procedure.

Advantage: To develop feminine behaviors and gestures

There are many more advantages, of course, like being able to wear tight, and I mean super tight, clothing. But these are the most crucial ones. After all, isn’t crossdressing or transitioning into your true gender something that should start from within? 

Myths About Strap On Vagina

With limited information comes wrong assumptions. And what do wrong assumptions breed? Myths! If you’ve been searching about strap on vagina, or at least seen some relevant issues about it, you’ll want to know what’s fact and fiction, right?

If you’re rocking a strap on vagina, you’re 100% gay

Allow me to roll my eyes at this one — because it’s not true, and I am a living, breathing proof! I mean, just look at my very straight, very feminine girlfriend of eight years.

Most people who assume this don’t know the difference between sexual orientation versus gender identity. These are the ones who can’t be bothered to fact-check things and are even annoyed when you correct them. So, are we even surprised that they are often wrong?

Sexual preference and gender identity are two different universes. These two aspects don’t always align in a straight line, nor should they. You can identify as female and still be attracted to women. You can also be an MtF crossdresser and still have a happy, supportive wife! Whoa, mind-blowing, right? Not!

You’re not happy with your male body

For a crossdresser, that’s a doozy. Well, let me set the record straight (pun intended). Relying on a strap on does not reflect dissatisfaction with your current physical state. It’s more about alignment, a sense of self-fulfillment, and authenticity.

It’s about a sincere presentation. Think of it like this: cosplayers do their best to bring their respected characters to life. They spend days sewing the characters’ get-ups, sensitive to even the most minute details. They observe the character for hours, copying the character’s mannerisms so they can fully embody the character.

We crossdress to express and explore our identities. It’s never just about clothes. It’s learning more about ourselves and discovering the full extent of being. Some of us crossdress because we want to expand our fashion sense. Meanwhile, some crave the freedom of just being feminine in a world that constantly demands us to be strong, manly men.

Personally, I love my male body. That’s why I do not limit it to black suits or acid-wash jeans. If King Henry VIII could wear silk stockings, have six wives, and be called “the most powerful man,” why can’t I twirl around in my sundress and still identify as a man?

 Strap on vaginas are just for sexual pleasure

Let’s squash this one for good. Don’t people realize that saying this is like saying, “Having breast implants is just for sexual pleasure!” This is such baloney and insulting, too, especially for our transgender friends.

My friend Marilyn will be pissed if she hears this one. Like what I previously discussed, strap on vaginas can be a source of comfort, confidence, and overall well-being. Sure, they can also be used for sexual reasons, but they are more than that. They encourage embracing femininity, heighten confidence, and many more.

Using a strap on vagina will always remain a personal choice. Your motivations for using one are also something privy only to you. But don’t let these myths derail you from exploring your identity!

How to Use a Strap On Vagina

Okay, newbie. There is no need to be scared. After everything you’ve learned, I know you’re more at ease with wanting a strap on vagina. Still, you might be perplexed at how to use one.

Some strap on vagina products come with a guideline on their usage. However, these guidelines are short and may be confusing. Plus, in this case, you can’t search online cause the information is just so limited. That’s why I am here and writing this article!

For this one, I’ll use one of my earlier great buys, Roanyer’s Fake Silicone Vagina Thong S1, as an example.

Buying

Look for reputable brands that offer confidential packaging. Go through the sites’ buying and return policies as well. I’m a regular customer of Roanyer because, frankly, not many offer what they have, especially their Femini Girdles. The page also offers high-quality products with rave reviews.

When you’re set on the brand, I strongly recommend checking the sizing before purchasing one. Too loose and it will be hard to keep up; too tight and it will make it difficult to move.

Preparation

So you finally get your package. Check for any tears or mishaps. When everything’s all fine, clean the product first. This may just be a pet peeve of mine, but I always clean the product first before letting it get in contact with my skin — especially if it’s my private areas.

To truly immerse yourself in your presentation, clean and tuck yourself first. Be sure to tuck the right way.

Positioning

When you’re tucked nice and tight, simply slip on the product over your feet and slip it up until it sits on your crotch. Adjust as necessary. Pretty easy, huh? That’s because I purposely chose something easy for a green thumb like you. Don’t worry; most of Roanye’s femini girdles can be worn like this too.

Other products with more features exist as well. Like strap on vaginas with anal holes or penetrable tube and urination pouch.

Usage

Now, you can wear your usual crossdressing clothes. Or wear that cute thong you’ve always liked. Walk around in your room or the mall without anyone knowing you’re wearing a strap on vagina and see how it feels.

Strap on Vagina in the Bedroom

Alright, moving on to the spicy stuff. Your strap on vagina can be a whole Royal Flush in the bedroom too! Just like what I shared about my girlfriend and me, we are into a bit of roleplay. So sometimes we dress up as cute nurses with super skimpy skirts. Pair your strap on vagina with your fetish or kink, be creative and don’t mind the taboos!  Just be sure that your partner is on board too.

Strap On Vagina Care and Maintenance  

Like any other special piece of kit, you’ll want to maintain your strap on vagina. I’m proud to tell you that most of my crossdressing essentials last me years! And it’s not because they are the most expensive in the land (and thereby of the utmost quality). No, most of my crossdressing items are of average price. But I am a bit of a cheapskate, so I tend to thrift my things.

There’s an exception, though — I never buy a secondhand item that will be in direct contact with my intimate parts. A strap on vagina? Even more so. My strap on vagina collection cost me a pretty penny, but I won’t risk my safety and comfort. And because they are quite the investment, it’s just right that I give them care and attention.

Always Clean It!

Right after you’re done with your strap on adventure, clean it up ASAP. No excuses! Silicone is a pretty forgiving material and is easily cleaned with mild soap and warm water. Cleanliness is godliness in this case — it’s also the secret to maintaining the soft, realistic feel of your strap on.

Store It Properly

Now, here comes the wrinkle: you can’t just toss it into a drawer with your argyle socks and gym shorts. Nope! Store it properly, ideally in a cool, dry place. A dedicated drawer or a storage bag would be a perfect home for your strap on. This way, it’ll keep its shape and be ready for action whenever you need it.

Do Regular Check Ups

Regular maintenance checks are also crucial. Check it for any small tears or signs of wear and tear. If you do spot any issues, call your manufacturer’s after-purchase service. They can guide you on how to repair it or when it’s time to retire your trusty companion for a new model.

How you care for your crossdressing items is a reflection of your commitment to your crossdressing journey. It’s a relationship — you take care of it, and in return, it’ll help you feel confident, sexy, and downright fabulous! 

Overcoming Common Challenges

Nothing is immediately perfect, not even your strap on experience. And this is okay; you just have to be ready for the roadblocks that may come your way.

It Just Doesn’t Feel Right

Oh boy, this one’s a classic! It’s your first time trying on a strap on vagina, and it feels, well, weird. No worries — just like buying a new couch, you’ll soon get used to it. Give it a few tries, let your body acclimate.

I’m Scared to Use It in Public

No one is immediately ready for a strut in any public setting. Unless you’re overtly extroverted. Well, most of us aren’t, so I get the fear of being “found out.” It’s downright terrifying. Imagine: You’re in the middle of a cosplay event, comic con maybe, and you’re worried about an accidental reveal. How do you overcome this? Practice.

Wear your strap on at home, do chores, or binge-watch your favorite Netflix series. Get comfortable with it. Hell, make a cup of tea! The more natural it feels to you, the less likely it is to attract any unintended attention.

It’s Too Much Work

True, maintaining a strap on vagina does require effort. But what good thing doesn’t require effort? Just like how you wouldn’t neglect your favorite Louis Vuitton purse or your prized comic book collection, right? Prioritizing your strap on care routine can make the whole process a lot more manageable. Plus, it’s a small price to pay for how amazing these little wonders can make you feel.

Make the Most Out of Your Strap On Vagina

Exciting times are ahead! But how do you make the most of this new addition to your life? It all comes down to becoming one with your new accessory.

Make It a Daily Affair

For crossdressers like us who hope to unpeel our layers to get to our true identity, a strap on vagina isn’t a costume piece. It’s okay if you want to use it just for special occasions. But if your goal is to integrate it into your crossdressing routine for a more immersive experience, it should be a daily consideration. It’s an extension of you, and you should treat it as such.

Start subtly. Wear it while you’re working from home or even while you’re just lounging around. The more you use it, the more comfortable you’ll get.

Dress for Success

Okay, this is a biggie. How you manipulate your clothing choices can make or break your strap on vagina experience. Opt for those that flatter your new silhouette. Your strap on can also impact your figure if it comes with additional hip volume, etc.

Own It

You’ve got to own this! The key to rocking a strap on vagina is confidence. It’s yours, it’s part of you, and it’s fantastic. You bought it for a reason, so don’t shy away from your goal now!

Conclusion

Give yourself a pat (or two) on the back, newbie! You just finished your quick start (but comprehensive) guide to owning and rocking your strap on vagina. There may be little info out there about these promising products, but soon enough, you’ll be one of those who share your knowledge on them. Use this guide thoroughly to your advantage. Explore the strap on vagina’s benefits to your crossdressing story.

FAQs

What is a strap on vagina and, who can use it?

A strap on vagina is a product manufactured to imitate the look and feel of a woman’s genitalia. Generally, it’s used by MtF crossdressers, transgenders, cosplayers, drag queens, or anyone exploring their gender identity or desiring a feminine physical presentation.

Is it safe to use a strap on vagina?

Yes. This is especially true if you use those made from high-quality, body-safe silicone. Still, like all products that come into close contact with skin, it’s necessary to preserve correct hygiene and product care.

How can I ensure the right fit and comfort when using a strap on vagina?

As always, your tape measure is your best ally for this aspect. Get your hips and waist measurements. Pinpoint the numbers as accurately as you can, then compare them to the chart of your desired brand. If your size is in-between, choose to size up to be sure about comfort. You can also reach out to the manufacturer to order a size that is unique to you.

How should I clean and store my strap on vagina after use?

The pairing of warm water and mild soap does wonders. Rinse thoroughly and air dry. Store it in a clean, dry place away from direct sunlight and extreme temperatures.

Can I incorporate a strap on vagina into my crossdressing routine?

Absolutely! Many crossdressers treat using a strap on vagina as a normal part of their crossdressing routine. As someone who does this, I can say that it makes me feel more feminine and helps me be more in tune with my desired gender presentation.

How can I discuss using a strap on vagina with my partner?

Honesty goes a long way. Explain why you want to use a strap on vagina, how it can elevate your experience, and invite your partner to ask questions or express any concerns.