How to Feel Femme and Sexy Under Our Men’s Clothing

Finding time to transform ourselves into our femme alter egos fully can be challenging.

At the end of a long day at work, I rarely have the time or energy to dive into a full transformation session.

Spending all week waiting for enough free time to be en femme can also be equally stressful.

I’m sure most of us can relate; having the urge to dress up builds and consumes a bit of our psyche until the time we can be our girly selves.

So how can we alleviate the stress of those accumulating urges and perhaps have a bit of feminine joy during our normal times?

From time to time I will slip on something girly under my normal clothes.

When I started doing this, I was so worried I’d be found out.

Someone would see my panties when I bent over to pick up something on the floor and gasp.

I started by wearing some panties on my day off and going for a long walk.

Once, when working from home, I wore one of my small cup bras under a dark work shirt.

It felt daring, and each time I shifted in my chair, I could feel the slight tension from the straps change.

Wearing a few articles of women’s clothing under our male clothes on a normal day can be an exhilarating experience, something that can alleviate some of our stresses and give us a feminine thrill when we otherwise wouldn’t have one. 

So, what’s good to wear under your everyday clothes; what can give you the thrill you’re looking for with minimal chance of exposure?

I’ll share a few of my ideas and why I think they are good options for surreptitious femininity.

1. Panties

I think this is the most obvious item any of us can slip on under our male clothes to make us feel sexy and feminine.

It’s a good place to start, as they are easy to hide and are the first thing many of us think about when crossdressing.

Hiding panties is easy enough; I usually just put on my boxers and make sure the elastic band is just visible above the belt line of my pants.

I’ll also wear a belt and keep it tight to avoid any slips if I bend over or crouch down.

This should keep your panties concealed when you’re out and about.

As I’m sure you’re aware, there are thousands and thousands of different types of panties.

When I choose which to wear under my clothes, I consider two factors, comfort and sensuality.

I think it’s important to balance these two; you wouldn’t wear something if it didn’t make you feel sexy, on the other hand, something that causes you to fidget or adjust your panties all the time.

I favor a low-cut bikini panty. The lower waistline sits well below boxers and minimizes the risk of being clocked.

They also have enough coverage, so I’m not constantly having to worry about something popping loose.

I’ve found that panties with less coverage can cause pulling and pinching in important areas.

I also think that well-known “sexy” brands like Victoria’s Secret aren’t the best.

It’s possible to find panties that are just as sexy at cheaper shops like Target or TJ Maxx.

I know that lots of people think that lace panties are sexy; for me, some lace accent along the waistline is enough to make me feel girly.

Having some panties under my clothes does make me feel as if I’ve got just a bit of femininity tucked away.

I can imagine that many of us feel the same way. Whatever type of panties gives you that thrill, go for it.

2. Tights

Tights are great to wear under your clothes.

A pair of nylon or silk tights can definitely give you that feminine feeling we’re looking for.

Tights have this way of gently rubbing against your legs when you move; that’s absolutely electrifying.

Now, if you’re worried about getting clocked while wearing tights, I have a few suggestions.

Think about the type of clothes you’ll be wearing and where you’ll be going.

I’ve found that wearing some tights under formal clothes or business casual dress works well.

These outfits generally require long slacks and tucked-in shirts, giving you the coverage you need to feel confident with your feminine secret.

Also, in cold weather, they can provide some needed warmth.

3. Femme-Garter belts & stockings

I think garter belts and stockings are different than tights.

A garter belt and thigh-high stockings are generally worn in tandem.

I think the only purpose behind this type of lingerie is to make the wearer feel sensual and sexy.

The lace at the top of the stocking, along with the garters that hold them up, makes for a stunning visual when worn alone and under clothes, the little bits of tension between the garter belt above your hips and the straps pulling up your stockings is a constant reminder that underneath your male clothes, there is a girly secret of the highest order.

Something like a body stocking would also fall into this category; you’ll need to be a bit more careful about coverage, especially around your collar and the ends of your sleeves.

Roanyer has recently started a new line of garter belts and body stockings, which will fit nicely under most clothing; you can find them here.

Once again, suits or business casual wear is going to work the best to conceal your underthings.

However, because a garter belt is going to rise well above your normal beltline, I’d recommend a looser-fitting and darker-colored shirt.

Lighter blue or white shirts might not be opaque enough to cover your garments in every situation.

Darker colors like maroon, black, or deep blue would be better.

4. Femme-Sports bras and other gym clothes

Wearing a bra under your clothes is an easy mark; someone could spot the straps, and the sensation of wearing a normal bra isn’t quite the same with nothing in the cups.

A sports bra, however, is different. Because there are no hooks on the back or underwire, clocking one under clothing is quite difficult.

Working out in girly clothes with the goal of attaining a slim feminine shape can also be motivating.

Plenty of men will go running in tight tops or shorts, so wearing a sports bra under a looser top when exercising wouldn’t seem very unusual.

My workout of choice is cycling, and a pair of women’s yoga pants don’t even need to be worn secretly; I’ve just gone cycling in my women’s pants, sometimes with a loose-fitting pair of gym shorts over them as minor camouflage.

5. Femme-Body shaping undergarments

Like garter belts and stockings, these items can make you feel wondrous when having them on.

Attaining female curves is something we all dream of.

Being able to sport those curves in public can be a bit problematic.

Put on some hip-enhancing underwear, and your jeans might not fit properly and be too tight.

Wear a corset, and your movements are going to be constricted to the point of seeming unnatural.

So be mindful of these consequences when choosing what sort of shapewear you’re donning.

Let me make a few suggestions. First of all, elastic shapewear is going to be less restrictive than things like corsets.

One brand that is very good for this is SPANX; lots of women wear them regularly.

Also, their products are made to minimize things like a visible panty line, which helps you avoid getting clocked.

Hour Glass Angel also makes some body shapers suitable to wear under your clothing.

Finally, if you’re looking for something to really make you feel extra femme, you could try one of Roanyer’s Femini girdles; having one of these on under your clothes is an excellent idea to feel delightfully girly.

Having worn one myself, I can say they don’t constrict movement like a corset would, and the material is stretchy and thin.

There is nothing quite like them, and I highly recommend them.

Being a crossdresser can be tough sometimes.

Between work, errands, and other essential activities, finding the time to get dressed up is challenging.

Once you’ve got the confidence and courage to venture out with one or two pieces of women’s clothing under your normal clothes, some of your stress might be relieved.

Either way it’s a wonderful way to have a bit of enjoyment from having a naughty little secret.

I’ve worn panties to work, worked out in women’s clothing, and even gone quite extreme by putting on a full-body stocking under my business attire on what I knew would be a boring day.

All of these things made me feel satisfied and put a little wry smile on my face, knowing what I had on.

Perhaps you’ve done this yourself; please share in the comments how often and what you like to wear under your male clothes.

Sharing your story would be inspirational and perhaps help another crossdresser take a little step forward in their journey.

By maproteus