How to Feel Feminine in Male Form Without Getting Caught?

Crossdressing is becoming a norm in progressive parts of society where people have the freedom to express themselves without any judgment. But there is still a large part of society who don’t think like that and do not welcome people who think and express themselves differently. Especially crossdresser men have to go through a lot of mental trauma and physical abuse because of their fashion choices. Bullying in schools, constant pressure to change feminine behavior by family, termination of jobs, etc, there’s a lot that crossdressers have to go through in daily life. As a crossdresser, you’ve to understand that this is not just a temporary phase in your life that you can avoid. The urge to dress feminine may have various reasons and suppressing it can lead to mental health issues.

Some crossdressers take it graciously and work their way through it. But for others, it may be very hard to cope-up with all these and they’ve to quit crossdressing which is definitely not the way to deal with these things. There are still a lot of ways where you can crossdress in public, around your peers, and feel more feminine without even getting noticed. Of course, you can’t completely come out as a crossdresser but you can dress partially. This might not be as liberating as we’ll like to be open about it but rather than giving up entirely you can still stay in touch with your feminine side.

In this blog, I will share some tips and tricks for partially crossdressing in public and still being in male form from the outside.

Wear Women’s Lingerie

I think you all can agree that there’s nothing more sexier and feminine than women’s lingerie. The feeling of tight panties and bra, you all are drawn to that as crossdressers. Avoid wearing boring men’s briefs and boxers and start putting on panties that are comfortable, especially in public places. You being uncomfortable around your peers can cause problems and you might end up being caught as a crossdresser. To avoid discomfort make sure you’re choosing the correct fit and material according to your body type. Women’s underwears come in different styles, colors, and materials so choose accordingly.

There are some precautions that you need to take if you’re a closeted crossdresser. First of all, you need to be very careful about the visible lines of lingeries. To hide pantie lines you should wear little baggy trousers or go with seamless underwear.

You can also wear a bra and camisoles but there are some precautions here also to be taken off as bra lines are very revealing. Avoid wearing tight shirts and t-shirts while wearing a bra underneath. Don’t wear a cotton white shirt over a bra or camisoles as it is almost translucent and people can see. Wear more opaque fabrics while wearing a bra underneath. Tank tops can be very good options that are unisex and would be easy to hide over shirts and t-shirts. I recommend maintaining some distance from your peers because of obvious reasons but don’t make it look unnatural.
You can use these tricks in offices, school, and even at home but just be a little careful about malfunctions because they can reveal a lot but apart from that you are good to go.

Choose Unisex Clothing

Trying on unisex garments is one more option that you should go for to feel more girly from the inside while still being in male mode from the outside. There are multiple ways to do this, you can pair male and female clothing to have a neutral look. Another way is you can shop for unisex clothes such as skinny jeans, and ladies’ shirts, picking girly colors, etc. Just choose the style you are comfortable with according to your surroundings and how people would perceive it.

As a crossdresser, I would recommend avoiding dressing over the top. It can put you in the spotlight of crossdressing which you don’t want. For example, girly color pants like pink, yellow, and red are a big no, you can try skinny jeans which can provide good shape and fit. Avoid crop tops, frill shirts, blouson tops, etc. as these are very feminine. When it comes to shirts and tops, v neck white T-shirt is a classic option, and tank tops at home are acceptable.

Accessorise Smartly

Genderless accessories are currently in trend, pearl necklaces, clay rings, and long earrings are something that you can put on along with your outfits without having any second thoughts. These accessories will look amazing and give you a unisex but more feminine look. Apart from these basic ones, you can explore belts, bracelets, and handbags whichever suits you best and goes well with your outfit.

Make sure not to over-accessorise because you don’t want people to know about your feminine desires. Be smart with your accessories as they can give you girly feelings while still being in male clothes.

Apply Minimal Makeup

Makeup and femininity go hand in hand for crossdressers. You cannot avoid makeup to feel fully feminine but if you don’t want to come out as a crossdresser you’ve to be very careful and follow a minimalistic approach with makeup.

Start by applying a very thin layer of foundation to hide rough male skin. You can use mascara to make eyelashes subtle longer and fuller. Apart from that put mild lip balm on your lips to give them some shine and avoid dark-colored lipstick.

Taking care of skin with regular moisturization, maintaining proper hydration, and using quality face products can be very helpful to have clear women-like skin. I like applying minimal makeup to feel womanly and people around me can’t even notice that.

Self-care and Hygiene

Women are obsessed with self-care and hygiene and it clearly reflects on their bodies. Whether it’s regular waxing of body hairs to have smooth-silky skin, routine manicure and pedicure sessions, or routine sessions at the beauty parlor, women keep self-care as top-priority. Now I understand that as a secret crossdresser while still being a man from your external appearance you cannot entirely groom like a woman but there are some things you can do such as

• Regular shaving of a beard is also very common. Keeping a beard on your face isn’t going to help you at all.

• Properly waxing body hair, can help you feel very womanly and people around you won’t even notice.

• Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can be a very satisfying experience as it will keep you in your desired shape.

Secretly Induling in Feminine Stuff

Indulging yourself in feminine stuff from time to time can be helpful for you to stay connected with your feminine side and still be a man from the outside. This may include listening to female singers, watching girly rom-com, following female fashion influencers, etc. Shopping can be a great experience for you but you’ve to find better excuses to offer the salesperson for purchasing feminine clothes. I always tell the salesperson that I’m a theatre actor and buy these clothes for my performance. These activities will give you a daily dose of femininity and help bring in feminine mode.

These activities become more important when you’ve very no privacy as a crossdresser and people around you are very conservative. For me watching crossdresser influencers on Instagram is a stress reliever and an escape from daily hectic life. Try on what works best for you, and trust me it will be very helpful.

Creating Social Media Presence

I will recommend this to everyone to have a secret social media presence as a crossdresser. You can also post your dressed-up photos if you’re comfortable. But having an active social media account for your alter ego is very important to make you feel content and satisfied and continue existing men in real life. Not only that you can also connect with fellow crossdressers and transgender, become friends, and share stories and ideas. This can be a very liberating experience for you as a crossdresser.

Joining community forums on Reddit will help you learn a lot.  Sharing your ideas through stories on Quora can be very good therapy.

Social media can be very helpful for a crossdresser especially if you’re closeted and live in a conservative environment. You have to take care, not to reveal too much about yourself as people might recognize you. Apart from that social media can be very addictive, so keep in mind not to use it beyond limits.

Summary

The purpose of this blog is not to encourage you to limit yourself in expressing yourself in any way but to give you some tips and ideas about how you can crossdress partially and continue to exist as a male at the same time. Also, some crossdressers like the idea of crossdressing in secret rather than coming out and dealing with all the after-effects of it. I would suggest you try these tricks who knows you might like them and fall in love with the feeling of secrecy.

You can use all these tips and tricks to dabble into femininity and continuously exist as a so-called “normal” person. People have started accepting crossdressing and gender expression in some parts of the world and soon it will be accepted all over the world, till then keep your heads up and embrace your femininity in male form.