How I Celebrated World BDSM Day as an MTF Crossdresser

As a crossdresser, there’s a handful of days that I look forward to each year. But the one at the top of my list is World BDSM Day. Why?

Because on this special day, I live as freely as I want, letting go of all inhibitions and letting my inner BDSM diva out.

In this article, I’ll share with you how I celebrated World BDSM Day for crossdressers. I’ll include how I prepared for the day, the outfits I picked out, the kinky activities I tried, and even how I ended the day with some self-care rituals.

Are you excited yet? Let’s get started.

What Is World BDSM Day?

Up until a few years ago, I could have sworn that BDSM practices were pretty recent and started in the 20th century. But after learning about BDSM history and culture, I discovered that BDSM dates as far back as the 18th century.

However, it wasn’t until 2003 that a special day was set aside to celebrate it: the 24th of July. This special holiday was founded by a fellow BDSM lover called Kurt Walter. And ever since 2003, thousands of crossdressers have celebrated this special day.

If you’re new here and you need an introduction to BDSM for crossdressers, here’s what you need to know.

BDSM has these categories:

● Bondage: This is when your partner limits your ability to move freely. They can use ropes, handcuffs, zip ties, or if you’re a complete beginner, something softer like a scarf.

● Dominance: Once you’re in bondage, your dominant partner can order you around and give you rules to follow both in the bedroom and outside.

● Discipline: If you fail to listen to the rules set out by your dominant partner, they can give you a punishment or discipline you.

● Submission: As the submissive partner, you need to obey your dom’s partner’s wishes and commands.

● Sadism and Masochism: If you’re both experienced, you can try this category as well. Here, your dominant partner may find pleasure in inflicting some level of pain on you e.g light spanking, and you too find pleasure in feeling pain.

The Link Between BDSM and Crossdressing

Before I get into the juicy details of how I celebrated World BDSM Day for crossdressers, let me break down for you the connection between BDSM and crossdressing.

Many people think that BDSM and crossdressing is just about wearing certain clothes and playing a role. But it’s deeper than that.

They’re both about exploring different sides of you, getting out of your comfort zone, and pushing your boundaries. Plus, exploring BDSM as a crossdresser can help you embrace your feminine and sexual side even more. However, I’ll encourage you to start slowly before trying advanced things.

For example, if you want to be a BDSM sissy slave and explore your submissive side, you can try light bondage or even power play.

How I Prepared For World BDSM Day As a Crossdresser

Since it was my first time celebrating World BDSM Day, I had a lot to prepare. Since I wanted the day to be extra special for me and my dom partner so here’s what I did to get ready.

1. Getting My Mind Right

Deep down, I knew that if I set unrealistic expectations for myself, I would end up getting disappointed. So I started by taking a few hours to mentally prepare and analyze myself.

Then, I took some time to visualize how I wanted the day to unfold for me. This helped me gain confidence and get even more excited for the day.

2. Choosing My BDSM Outfits

I’ve always been a fan of ‘Go Big or Go Home.’ So, I was definitely going to go all out when choosing my BDSM outfits.

I wanted something that would make me feel sexy, confident, and powerful. So I choose these three outfits:

● The Classic French Maid: I paired this outfit with thigh-high leggings and a chastity thong that would please my dom partner

● The Naughty Nurse: I’ve always fancied a little role-play, so this was a no-brainer for me. I chose a naughty nurse dress with a deep neckline, then I paired it with a cute nurse cap and red heels.

● The Playful Kitty: I wanted to switch things up at night by showing my playful side. So I chose a sexy cat bodysuit that would show my curves. Then, I added some cute cat ears and a long tail.

3. Picking the Perfect BDSM Props

Then, it was time to choose some BDSM props that would complement my outfits and make my experience more exciting.

Here’s what I chose:

● Feather Duster and Paddle: I knew these props would go perfectly with my French maid outfit and they would keep things spicy

● Stethoscope: My naughty nurse outfit would not be complete without a realistic stethoscope and some medical tape that I could use to bind wrists or ankles

● Mouth Gag: To complement my cat costume, I added a mouth gag that would restrain my voice and force me to get into character and only make cat noises.

4. Setting Boundaries With My Dom Partner

After preparing my outfit and props, I had a long chat with my partner about how far I wanted to go. This step was really important to me because I needed a way to communicate in case I felt uncomfortable and wanted to stop.

Doing this before the special day would ensure that both me and my partner were in the same space. So we sat down and ended up browsing a couple of safe words like:

● Tinkerbell
● Unicorn
● Pikachu
● Red
● Pineapple
● Pickle
● Peach

We ended up selecting Pineapple and Red. And in case I had a mouth gag on, I could signal him to stop by making 3 deep grunt sounds.

Activities I Tried On World BDSM Day

When the special day arrived, I felt completely ready for it. Let me share with you how the day went down and the activities that I tried.

1. Role-Play

The first activity I tried with my BDSM partner was some role-play sex. Yes! I said it!

So I took out my French maid outfit and played the role of an obedient maid who was eager to please my dom partner. The outfit definitely spiced things up and made them more exciting, especially because it was my first time wearing it.

Later on, we switched roles and I got to explore the naughty nurse and patient dynamic. Honestly, I was scared to take on the dominant role but my partner was open-minded and helped me overcome my fear.

2. Bondage

The next BDSM activity I tried was bondage. This was my first time trying it, so it was definitely out of my comfort zone. But we took things slow and used soft rope.

If you want to try bondage as well, practice some basic knots in different positions like lying on your stomach or even with your legs in the air.

Then once you’re used to it and you’ve learned BDSM rules, you can use cuffs and chains to secure your wrists and your ankles.

3. Sensory Deprivation

Besides role-playing, I explored some sensory deprivation. Basically, this means blocking one or more senses in order to heighten your other senses.

So my dom partner went ahead and used a blindfold on me. We used a scarf since it was soft to the touch and wouldn’t hurt my eyes.

After I was blindfolded, my partner went ahead and used a feather to tickle and tease me. God! Each feather stroke was like a slow tease that almost sent me writhing with pleasure.

If you too want to try some BDSM activities, I recommend that you start with these 3 activities. Then, once you’re comfortable enough, you can move on to advanced ones like:

● Wax play
● Breath play
● Breast torture
● Electrostimulation
● Fire play

Self-Care Activities I Prioritized After World BDSM Day

I know a lot of people skip this part, but to me, it’s just as important as the BDSM activities. So, after having the time of my life, I wound down my day with some aftercare.

First, my partner and I had a long cuddle, which helped me calm down, relax, and feel safe emotionally and physically.

Then, I hopped into the shower for a good 30 minutes. Lastly, I drank some lemon-infused water to hydrate my body and went to bed early to continue resting.

Final Thoughts

That’s it, love! I hope you enjoyed this article and you learned a lot. Also, don’t hesitate to join the trend and mark World BDSM Day in your calendar.

The secret is to prepare a few days in advance so the day doesn’t sneak up on you. Also, if you’re single and you don’t want a commitment, you don’t have to sit it out. You can celebrate the special day with an FWB to try these acts with.

So let your kinky side out and explore your sexuality! Until next time. Cheers!