How Does It Feel to Share an Apartment as a Cross-Dresser?

Recently, I have moved into an apartment, which I share with two other students that go to the same college as me. I had to make a few changes to my cross-dressing routine, adapting myself to these new conditions. The chances are that some of our sisters may find themselves in a similar situation. And because of that, it’s normal to struggle with such a shift in their routines.

You must learn how to establish a set of convenience rules and make sure your housemates agree with them. Try getting as much privacy as possible and come.to.terms with them about the storage of your cross-dressing stuff. If you want to learn that and more, read this article, where I’ll share my own experience.

1. How do I share it

I’m in my last year of college, in a city a bit far from my hometown. My new apartment is near the university, and the people there are open-minded and receptive. I didn’t have much problem presenting as female so far, but rent isn’t cheap. As a result, I share my apartment with two other guys, so we can split the expenses. They are friends of mine who have known me since before I came out.

The apartment has two bedrooms, a small and a big one. I share the larger room and a closet with a colleague, while the other guy stays in the small room. They are both straight cis guys, but we agree on mutual respect and that trans people are valid. I knew they wouldn’t have a problem with me being non-binary, so I started dropping a few hints. I started using a necklace with the gender-fluid proud flag and a pin on my backpack. They didn’t question it, so I went out to college as a girl and came out to them. They said it was fine and had no problem with that, so I knew everything was okay.

2. About privacy

As I’ve mentioned, I share my closet and bedroom with one of my housemates. It means that I don’t have a lot of privacy, but we can work things out. I usually dress up for short sessions just so I can deal with dysphoria. You see, even though they are supportive, I’m not yet comfortable around them as a girl. It bothers me a bit since I’m unable to dress up as often as I’d like. But on the other hand, it’s been only a month since I moved in with them. That’s because I spent some time at my girlfriend’s place before the apartment was ready. So, with that in mind, I feel like I’ll be getting used to it soon and dressing up as a girl more often after that. I know that I would have more privacy in the smaller room, but I wouldn’t be able to fit all my things in it. So I’m happy to be in the big bedroom, even if I have to share it.

3. Storing my cross-dressing items

When moving from my hometown to where I Study, I was able to bring most of my cross-dressing resources with me. It includes a bag full of female clothes, some shapewear, shoes, some of my wigs, makeup supplies, and a box with my roanyer silicone breast forms. But since I share the apartment, I can’t just leave it anywhere. Because of that, I keep my makeup in a cardboard box inside of my closet, near the box with my silicone breastplate. My wigs are gently stored in their original package as well and share a drawer with my shapewear. My clothes, on the other hand, my clothes are still in my backpack, alongside my hosiery and feminine underwear. And that’s due to two main reasons. First, I don’t have enough hangers, and since I share my closet, the space is limited. And second, it’s still something intimate to me, and I don’t want my housemates to see that stuff so often.

They said they have no problem with it, but I still have a minor trauma since my parents made me hide it even after I came out to them. But they’re gaining my trust, and I plan to move the stuff to my wardrobe with my male clothes. I’ve ordered a few hangers, so I could do that without a problem. And besides that, I’m also planning to buy a few wig displays, so I can store them the proper way. I feel like the conditions here will be better than they were in my hometown. At least in terms of storage, when I finish setting things up.

4. Practicing my skills

Cross-dressers should never stop practicing if they want to keep their skills sharp. The more we do it, the better we become at doing so. But in my current routine, I have little time and space for dressing up, at least for Practicing purposes. But it doesn’t mean that I’m unable to practice. Intend to do my makeup whenever I can, even if I stay with it for no more than a few minutes. Because of that, I shave my beard every couple of days and my arm and legs every week. It helps me to save time and do the makeup the right way.

My apartment has two bathrooms, one of which is in the room I share. I do my makeup there when I’m practicing to get more privacy. My housemates said that it’s okay since they can just use the other bathroom if they need to. But when I’m home alone, I do it in my room. That’s because my wardrobe has a huge mirror inside, where I can see myself as a whole while I do the makeup. The important thing is to keep practicing so everything is fresh in your head when you want to go out en femme.

5. Tips for other Cross-dressers

If you’re going to share a room with someone else, make sure you can trust them. After all, these people will be with you during most of your free time. When looking for roommates, make sure you find out what they think about cross-dressers beforehand. It’s also good to set up some privacy boundaries and make sure everyone is comfortable. And last but not least, when looking for an apartment, keep in mind that you need some space to dress up and keep your stuff.

Sharing apartments is a common thing among college students. But if you cross-dress regularly, you must keep a few things in mind. Come out to your roommates, and make it clear that privacy is something important. But above everything else, keep being true to yourself. Soon enough, you’ll be adapted to this routine. Have you got some story of this kind? If you do, don’t forget to tell us about it in the comments!

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A. Which aspects of sharing an apartment concern you the most?

B. Lack of privacy


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