Coming Out to Your Family and Friends

As crossdressers, one of our biggest challenges is “coming out” to our families and friends.

It is a very important step in self-acceptance, but it can also be difficult.

“Coming out” offers several benefits to you.

For instance, once your family and friends accept who you are, they become your first support system.

It also allows you to be more open and authentic with the people in your life.

And finally, it can help you build closer relationships with the people who matter most to you. 

If you’re thinking about “coming out” to your family and friends, below are a few things to keep in mind:

1. The importance of coming out 

There are many benefits to coming out as a crossdresser.

First and foremost, it can be incredibly liberating.

It helps one comprehend their own identity and how they fit into the world around them.

Additionally, coming out can help you build stronger relationships with others inside and outside the crossdressing community.

For a long time, I kept my crossdressing hidden.

It was something I did in secret, afraid of what others might think or say.

But eventually, I realized that living my life in hiding wasn’t going to make me happy.

So, I decided to come out as a crossdresser to my family and friends.

It wasn’t easy, but it was worth it.

Coming out has allowed me to be more comfortable with myself and has assured me that I enjoy my life the way I want to.

If you’re thinking about coming out as a crossdresser, I encourage you to do it.

It is challenging but worth all the effort. Trust me; you’ll be glad you did!

There are many resources available for crossdressers.

There are also lots of supportive community groups you can join. Remember, you’re not alone!

Crossdressing is more common than you might think, and there’s nothing wrong with it.

Here are 11 benefits of coming out as a crossdresser:

1. You will stop cross-dressing in secret.

2. You will be able to be more open and honest with your loved ones about who you are.

3. You will be able to shop for clothes and accessories that better reflect your true style.

4. You will be able to express yourself more freely and feel more comfortable in your skin.

5. You may find that you have more in common with other crossdressers than you originally thought.

6. You will likely feel less stress and anxiety as a result of hiding your crossdressing from others.

7. You may find that coming out as a crossdresser can help you achieve your other goals in life.

8. You will be able to connect with other crossdressers and build a supportive community.

9. You may find that you are more confident and self-assured as a result of coming out as a crossdresser.

10. Coming out as a crossdresser can help you better understand and accept yourself.

11. You will be able to live your life more authentically and feel happier as a result.

2. Coming out to your friends and family 

It can be difficult to come out as a crossdresser to your family and friends.

You might be anxious about their reaction or what they will think of you. However, it is imperative to remember that you are not doing anything wrong by cross-dressing.

You are simply expressing yourself in a way that makes you happy.

Below are a few tips on how to come out to your family and friends as a crossdresser:

1. Please select an appropriate time and place to tell them. 

You want to make sure that you are in a comfortable setting where you feel safe and relaxed.

2. Please explain why you crossdress and how it makes you feel. 

This will help them understand why this is important to you.

3. Reassure them that you are still the same person they know and love. 

Let them know that this is not going to change who you are as a person.

4. Be prepared for their reaction. 

They might need some time to adjust and come to terms with it, but ultimately, they will still love and accept you for who you are.

5. Be calm.

If you come across as confident in your decision to crossdress, they will be more likely to accept it.

6. Answer any questions they might have. 

This will help them understand your decision better and make them more comfortable with it.

7. Crossdressing is not something to be ashamed of. 

It is a perfectly normal way to express yourself.

By coming out to your family and friends, you are giving them the opportunity to understand you better.

8. Have a stand-by outfit ready.

If they want to see what you look like, be prepared to show them.

This will help them visualize and understand better what crossdressing means to you.

It might also make them more comfortable with the idea if they can see that you still look like yourself, just with different clothes on.

9. Remember, there are others.

Many other people crossdress and go through the same struggles and challenges as you do.

There are also different resources on your journeys, such as support groups, online forums, and books about cross-dressing.

Always reach out for help when you’re stranded.

3. What to do if someone doesn’t accept you 

If you’re a crossdresser and someone in your life isn’t accepting of your chosen identity, it can be tough to know what to do.

Here are some tips on how to deal with the situation:

▶ Talk to the person and try to explain why this is important to you. It may help them to understand your perspective.

▶ If the person is close to you, such as a family member or friend, you could try asking them to accept you for who you are.

▶ If the person is not willing to accept your crossdressing, you may need to distance yourself from them. This can be not easy, but it’s important to remember that you deserve to be respected and accepted for who you are.

▶ There are many other people in the world who will accept you for who you are. Seek out these people and build a support network of friends and allies who understand and respect you.

4. Coming out in the digital age

As a crossdresser, coming out in the digital age has its pros and cons.

On the one hand, it’s easier than ever to connect with other crossdressers and find community and support online.

On the other hand, the internet can also be a dangerous place for someone who isn’t out to their family or friends.

Things to consider before coming out as a crossdresser online:

1. Who do you want to tell?

Are you prepared to come out to your family, friends, or the world?

It’s important to think about who you want to tell before you make any announcements online.

Once the info is shared on social platforms, it can be not easy to take it back.

2. What are your goals?

Are you looking to find community and support, or are you just trying to express yourself?

It’s important to think about your goals before coming out as a crossdresser online.

There are many different ways to do both of these things, so it’s important to find the right platform for you.

3. What is your level of comfort?

Are you comfortable with people knowing your real name, or do you prefer to remain anonymous?

This is an important consideration when coming out as a crossdresser online.

If you’re not comfortable with people knowing your real name, there are ways to protect your privacy (like using a pseudonym).

4. What are the risks?

Are you worried about being harassed or discriminated against online?

This is a valid concern, and it’s important to weigh the risks before coming out as a crossdresser online.

If you’re worried about being targeted, there are ways to protect yourself (like using a pseudonym or only sharing information with people you trust).

5. What are the benefits?

Are you looking for community and support, or do you just want to express yourself?

Coming out as a crossdresser online can have many benefits, like giving you a chance to connect with other crossdressers and find community and support.

5. Resources for LGBTQIA+ people and their families and friends

The LGBT community has a rich history and culture.

One aspect of this is cross-dressing, which has been practiced throughout the world for centuries.

Today, crossdressing is often associated with transgender and gender non-conforming people, but anyone can enjoy dressing in attires meant for the opposite gender.

If you’re interested in exploring your crossdressing interests, there are many resources available to help you get started.

This includes books, websites, and support groups specifically for crossdressers.

You can also find clothing and accessories designed specifically for crossdressers, which can make your experience more comfortable and authentic.

Crossdressing can be a fun and liberating experience.

It’s a way to express your individuality and explore your style.

With the right resources, you can make cross-dressing a safe, comfortable, and enjoyable experience.

“Coming out” offers a plethora of benefits to the crossdresser.

First and foremost, it allows us to be our true selves.

It gives us the opportunity to express ourselves in a way that we may not have been able to do before. 

Second, it can help build stronger relationships with our loved ones.

When we are honest about who we are, it allows our loved ones to see us in a different light.

They may not understand everything about our crossdressing journey, but they will be more likely to accept us for who we are.

Third, coming out can also help us connect with other crossdressers.

When we are open about our crossdressing, we are more likely to meet others who share similar experiences.

If you still haven’t done it, it’s time you showed the world your true identity.